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Are guys learning this crap in Maxim?

Actually, it has to be somewhere else because I get Maxim (for free) and well....I've never seen this suggested in there. The backhand compliment.

A while back (like a year or so ago), I got the "you're hot too bad you're over 30" message from a guy that was my own age.

A different guy sent me this tonight on an online dating site: "Wow too bad you're a tomboy cuz you are quite the looker and you seem to girl up well(Judging from pics) I however like girly girls I just wanted to pay a well meant compliment
to a hottie:)"


is that really supposed to impress me or make me feel good about myself? Guess what jerkface? IT DOESN'T. It is actually a painful reminder that the stuff I enjoy actually often keeps me from finding a guy because I'm not girly enough.

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beatnikbetty
Nov. 23rd, 2009 10:08 am (UTC)
there are plenty of guys who are looking for that girl who is into the same sports and hobbies as he is into.
i'm certain of that.
champion
Nov. 23rd, 2009 02:34 pm (UTC)
The neg. Works all the time.
champion
Nov. 23rd, 2009 02:37 pm (UTC)
http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com/the_daily_dish/2009/07/the-neg-contd.html

The online dating site guy totally missed the mark. That wasn't a proper neg - that guy was just a total douche.
aimercat
Nov. 23rd, 2009 08:26 pm (UTC)
well the neg doesn't work on me. it just pisses me off and makes me want to call a dude a douche to his face.
noniyu
Nov. 24th, 2009 01:43 am (UTC)
Idiots.
perfection1144
Nov. 27th, 2009 02:02 am (UTC)
Sounds like both guys saved you the trouble of finding out what douchebags they were on an actual date. It is much more a statement on their insecurities than your "faults".

I've found a few guys that were slightly intimidated by some of my tomboy sides (the guns and hunting especially), but none who completely wrote me off because of it. Then again, I'm sure it's easier to find a southern guy who appreciates a tomboy that is also capable of cleaning up.
aimercat
Nov. 27th, 2009 07:23 am (UTC)
yeah, cali is full of a bunch of pussies and douches.
radiolassie82
Dec. 1st, 2009 08:10 am (UTC)
"I'm sure it's easier to find a southern guy who appreciates a tomboy that is also capable of cleaning up."

Very true. They like girls they can take to the tractor pull and out fishing. If you enjoy those things too, it makes you less likely to bitch at them for going out and doing those activities.
aimercat
Dec. 1st, 2009 10:22 am (UTC)
here guys are into being douchebags. Maybe if I act like a douchebag and put on an ed hardy shirt, I'll find a guy. haha.
perfection1144
Dec. 1st, 2009 04:34 pm (UTC)
Fishing is fine, but tractor pulls, NASCAR, monster truck rallies and the like are out of the question for most of the girls or guys I know. There's a big difference between southern and redneck.
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